Hey Shawty

A few weekends ago we had a toddler staying in our house, and it brought back a rush of memories: the years in which I walked in a permanent stoop as a tiny girl clung with her whole fist to my forefinger, careening from living room to dining room or up a set of mountainous stairs. The years when I had to lean down to kiss the top of a sweaty head, or pick up a daughter and place her on my hip so she could be at eye rather than knee level with visitors.

Those memories comfort me, now that I have a barefoot kid who looks directly into my eyes while pressing down on my shoulders with two hands and says, “Bwahahahahahaha, Dad, I’m taller than Mom now! I am! Come see!”

The truth is that I still have about an 1/8th of an inch on her, but that difference will probably be erased by the time I get to the end of this paragraph. I may as well say it: my 14 year old daughter is as tall as I am, and showing no signs of stopping.

I’m not short, either – 5’8” if you believe my driver’s license, by which I am also 5 pounds lighter so, you know, take it with a grain of salt. But I’m at least 5’7 ½”. Tall enough to be that woman in the grocery store who gets asked by old lady shoppers to reach for things, to be that wife who prides herself on never asking her husband to get down the pans stored on the topmost kitchen shelves, tall enough to order the Long version of clothes from catalogs. “On the tall side” is part of my identity.

And I always dated tall guys, with the exception of a German/American dude when I lived in Munich who got a pass because I didn’t have to explain idioms to him, which masked a LOT of his shortcomings. No surprise then that my husband still has three inches on me even when I wear my tallest heels. He comes from tall people.

I used to tease my late father-in-law B.T. about a family picture from the 1930s in which he is 16 years old, about to leave his family in Indonesia to move to Holland for college. (Bad timing: World War 2. Minority students put into German work camps. Story for another time.) At any rate there’s B.T., towering over his parents and siblings by a factor of two. I used to say, “B.T., they were probably happy you were getting ready to leave, so they could have some of the food you were hoovering up the whole time.” He always laughed. But never denied it.

So really, this having a child who is my height and still growing shouldn’t be a surprise. One might say I brought it upon myself. I just wish she wasn’t so darn gleeful about it. And soon there will be two: the younger daughter recently tried on a dress that fit her sister at the same age, and it was about two inches too short on her. Somewhere at a dim sum restaurant in Heaven, B.T. is cracking up.

But I do still have some small satisfaction. Because along with height comes another physical attribute: big feet. My gunboats aren’t small.

But I bet they’re going to be downright dainty compared to my kids.

Here’s a weird little tune that I always loved – Neil Finn singing “Sandy Allen,” an ode to the world’s tallest woman, who he once met on a talk show. (The first two lines that are cut off are “Hello Sandy Allen, the world’s tallest woman…) I love the little note of universal self doubt – “we made friends in New York, don’t know if you remember?” She was probably good at recognizing people by their scalps.

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6 comments on this post.
  1. Risa Nye:

    Nancy, my daughter was taller than I am (5’3″) by the time she was in fifth grade. I’ve been way shorter than all three kids for many, many years. And if I ever get pulled over, the cop will be searching for the much thinner woman who purports to be me on my driver’s license.

  2. The Flying Chalupa:

    As the shortest person from a family of five, I’m jealous of you super model types. That being said, I’m still taller than my kids. For at least a few years.

  3. Floribunda:

    It is indeed a marvel when, some mornings, they arrive downstairs, bleary-eyed, and I say, “Wait – did you grow last night?” We are pretty certain that Pliny the Elder will be looking down on us by the time his 14th birthday rolls around; similarly, the Younger is already grown out of the pants worn by the Elder at the same age. Pretty mind-blowing that all our once tiny little darlings are clearly going to be giants – and we, the dwarves.

  4. Nancy Davis Kho:

    Let me disabuse you of any notion that “supermodel” applies to anything other than my foot size. Enjoy the height advantage while it lasts.

  5. Nancy Davis Kho:

    Never thought of it that way…the driver’s license weight as grounds for plausible deniability.

  6. Mary A Brown:

    The Flying Chalupa beat me to it. I always think of that as the perfect supermodel height. I used to hate being short but now it helps delude people into thinking I’m younger. At least until they get close enough to see the wrinkles, wattle, jowls, and middle age spread. I hope that from afar I pass as a chubby teen.
    And you only shaved 5 pounds off your weight on your license? I think that’s within experimental error so it’s accurate! Come to think of it, I think mine is only off by that now.

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